When it comes to our elderly loved ones, we want to do what is best for them. Oftentimes, this means making the difficult decision to place them in an assisted living or independent living facility. How can you tell if your mom is ready for this change?
There are some more obvious signs that mom needs extra help, like being in poor health, experiencing a lot of falls or accidents, she is no longer able to drive herself places, or frequently seems confused or is forgetting things…
But there may be other signs that aren’t as obvious. Here are 5 signs to watch for that she may be ready for a more supportive living environment:
- She is no longer able to keep up with her usual routine and chores. You notice that her home is becoming increasingly cluttered and dirty. Maybe some of the more difficult maintenance isn’t getting done, and the home is beginning to deteriorate or fall apart. This can include yard work, repairs, or even general maintenance on the appliances and filters in the house.
- She has difficulty managing her medications. Maybe she isn’t always remembering to take them, or isn’t motivated to take them every day. This can be a sign that she is struggling to keep up with her health and needs extra support.
- She has lost interest in activities she used to enjoy. This can be a sign that she is feeling isolated, lonely, or bored. Maybe she isn’t getting out as much, or doesn’t have the same social interaction that she used to. This may also be a sign of depression or other mental health issues.
- She isn’t eating as well as she used to. This can be for a number of reasons – maybe cooking is becoming too difficult, or she’s not able to grocery shop as easily. Maybe her appetite has changed and she doesn’t have the energy to cook elaborate meals anymore. Whatever the reason, if you notice mom isn’t eating as well, it may be time for a change.
- She’s showing signs of depression or anxiety. This can manifest in a number of ways – she may be withdrawn, have difficulty sleeping, or seem more irritable. She may also be experiencing changes in her weight or appetite. If you notice any of these changes, it’s important to talk to her doctor and see if assisted living is the right option.
All of these are valid concerns and if you are noticing any of them, it may be time to start considering an assisted living facility for your mom. It’s important to have a conversation with her about what she wants and needs in her later years so that everyone is on the same page. Making this decision can be difficult, but if you think it’s the best for her, then it is worth exploring.
The Williams Home, Lynchburg’s Only Retirement Community for Ladies, offers a wide variety of services and amenities to make your loved one feel comfortable and supported. Learn more about our levels of care.